Jordan’s Recovery Story

by Julie

I was raised as a half city/half coun­try boy, going on many hik­ing and camp­ing trips and attend­ing many UK games. My favorite thing to do in the world is to wan­der a new for­est path with my dog. When I’m not work­ing as a serv­er wait­ing tables, you can find me watch­ing sports or loung­ing in my ham­mock in the park. My par­ents were both lawyers dur­ing my child­hood, so I was def­i­nite­ly raised with a cer­tain struc­ture to my life. 

My par­ents divorced when I was four years old, which meant the struc­ture wasn’t always aimed towards the same goal. This caused issues with rela­tion­ships. I nev­er had a prob­lem mak­ing friends, but always felt as if I didn’t fit in. Around the age of 13, I found mar­i­jua­na. Smok­ing was my escape from the world of feel­ings. I began to smoke more reg­u­lar­ly in high school and noticed more peo­ple around me did too. I then dis­cov­ered that if I sold weed, I could smoke all I want­ed and peo­ple would want to hang out with me. I put this into prac­tice for sev­er­al years through school. My inevitable first arrest came when I was 18 for con­spir­a­cy to traf­fic mar­i­jua­na. Grow­ing up with lawyer par­ents, this was prob­a­bly the worst thing I could have done. I felt like a dis­ap­point­ment and an embar­rass­ment. This is when my depres­sion hit a new low. 

On pro­ba­tion and unable to cope using my drug of choice, I turned to alco­hol. I hung out with peo­ple who drank all day. I would iso­late myself for days at a time and drink my pain away. I was mad at the world and it came out with the alco­hol. I would take my anger out on the walls and the peo­ple around me. It was an end­less cycle of shame, depres­sion, and hope­less­ness. I con­tin­ued this cycle through six more years and two more arrests. I con­tem­plat­ed sui­cide hun­dreds of times, think­ing I was a bur­den to my fam­i­ly and any­one with whom I came into con­tact. The feel­ing of shame was so heavy because I felt I had no excuse. I was raised well and the things that hap­pened to me were the con­se­quences of my own actions.  I had nev­er felt so alone. I won­dered why I screwed every­thing up. 

It took me a long time to accept that I was an anx­ious, depressed alco­holic. I knew deep down inside, but I couldn’t bring myself to face real­i­ty. When I start­ed attend­ing AA, it was the first time in my life that I didn’t feel like the black sheep. In one of my first meet­ings, a man asked me, “When are you going to stop try­ing to change your past? It’s impos­si­ble.” That is when it final­ly clicked that the past doesn’t define me. I learned that I am not alone in these feel­ings and that I can over­come them. Now that I have accept­ed that I will always be an alco­holic, I can change my actions to avoid the cycle of depres­sion and using. Depres­sion and anx­i­ety are not an excuse for me to make bad choic­es. My recov­ery is a badge of hon­or that I wear proud­ly as I make it through each day.

My dad and my girl­friend have always been unwa­ver­ing in their sup­port for me. With­out their help, I would def­i­nite­ly not be where I am today. I use mind­ful­ness prac­tices. Yoga and med­i­ta­tion have been keys to my treat­ment, keep­ing my mind and body cen­tered and ground­ed. AA meet­ings and reg­u­lar ther­a­py also help me immense­ly. The biggest key to my suc­cess in cop­ing with my ill­ness has been estab­lish­ing and keep­ing a reg­u­lar rou­tine. I keep a good sleep sched­ule. My rou­tine allows me to be aware of all that needs to be done and gives me a sense of accom­plish­ment and pride as a result. 

Since start­ing recov­ery I’ve had many suc­cess­es. I hold down a job, I have an apart­ment with my girl­friend, and I pay my own bills. Being able to do these ‘nor­mal’ things has made me so much hap­pi­er. My par­ents even tell me they are proud of me! For the first time in my life, I’m mak­ing goals and look­ing to the future. I plan to start school to become an elec­tri­cian. My recov­ery isn’t fin­ished. I will be in recov­ery for the rest of my life. It isn’t a straight path, but the places I’ve been along that road have led me to be a bet­ter me. 

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